Richer kids are smarter. It’s true and there’s nothing to do about it. No communist fossil will prove me we’re all the same and that the rich have somehow annihilated all those brilliant minds of the poor. There were no brilliant minds to begin with. Besides a few geniuses, most of us are a result of what life puts into us. If you’re born in shit, you’re taught shit and you believe in shit, then you’ll probably not going to be that millionaire who wrote a book on how he succeeded from nothing. You’re going to be a piece of shit. Just like those soldiers/rebels in Sierra Leone who see women walking on the street, casually take them to the forest and rape the hell out of them and their children. On a normal basis.
Hey, atheist, if you were one of those women, wouldn’t you have rather liked those men to be crazy christians, puritans or muslims? At least you know there’s some set of values. It’s not perfect, but there is something. There is some kind of predictable order, some kind of God.
Back to the intelligent rich. I agree with the fact that they are smarter and more interesting. I myself, in the awakening of a certain conscience in my teens was far more attracted to spending time with the rich kids. The barriers were high, acceptance was not easy. Interaction was often possible only if you had cute girl friends to bring along to the bar. That was my way of stealing as much as I could out of that knowledge I never had access to otherwise. I despised spending time with the guys from the block and longed to be at the table with one rich interesting person or another.
Then comes the voice of the populist taking about how poor people are better people, more spiritual, more open, more welcoming. Well that is probably a long, enticing topic for another time. Let’s just say they present strong variability as to their reactions to incentives.
Here are just some statements from “Intelligence and How to Get It”, Social Class and cognitive culture chapter: “Lower income families are not raising doctors and CEOs. They are raising children who will eventually be workers whose obedience and good behaviour will stand them in good stead with employers who are not looking to be second-guessed or evaluated.” I cannot even say how true that is. My family raised workers. And it is still very difficult to get rid of the worker attitude, although all the other features of a professional are there and there is potential. That worker mentality will follow me and everyone raised like that forever. Or at least for a long time. I think the struggle is for young families to avoid doing that.
Some more facts from this book: “The working class mum talks less to a child and more of what is said is in a form of demands that would most likely not stimulate the child’s intellectual curiosity.” The accent that moms put on cleaning the house and making the bed and other little things should be equally matched with the accent on analytical thinking and engaging the child in discussions of why something is wrong to do, not just demanding not to do it.
“The professional family includes the child at the discussion at the dinner table, often attempting to engage the child in the issues that are being discussed. Vocabulary differences by the age of 3 are already at 50%.” Vocabulary is important in the age of internet where all mistakes are seen and scrutinized. There seem to be enough reasons to try to intellectually stimulate your children.
The problem is that way too many families don’t think that intellectual capabilities are important. They associate that with arrogance, lack of spirit and soul, loneliness etc. It’s true to some extent, but I think intelligence and money following it can still be channeled in a way as not to erode spirituality.